The Case for Negatives

She Speaks Eighteen Languages, and Can’t Say “No” in Any of Them – Mae West

The PAW Method:  Piloting, Activity and Work.  That’s all you need to raise a well-adjusted puppy.  It’s what keeps your adult dog happy and sane.  It’s what enables your senior dog to feel safe while in your care.  You can not remove any of these key components from your dog’s life, nor can you attempt to substitute love and affection.  Love and affection are what you want.  Give your dog the Piloting, Activity and Work that your dog needs, and then you can give all the love and affection that you want.  

Some dogs are easy.  Some dogs are harder, and require a lot from us.  Just always remember, they aren’t trying to make your life harder: they’re trying to make theirs more comfortable.  Again, give them what they need, and you get what you want. Sometimes those things conflict.  You want to give them love and affection, but right now, what they need is Activity.  You want to try to soothe them in a scary situation, but what they need is for you to Pilot them through a very scary situation.  That’s how we get well-adjusted, happy pets, who trust you to take them through even the scariest vet trip.

Unfortunately, the more regimented a training method is, the better we think it is.  Here’s the thing, though:  dogs are simple creatures.  Not stupid, but simple.  So when working with a beautifully simple creature, I like to take a cue from their behavior and keep it simple.   I loathe rules that govern your every move with a dog.  From how you’re supposed to feed them (when you’re ready!) to which side you keep them on during a walk (I recommend the outside).

Outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend.  Inside a dog, it's too dark to read. - Groucho Marx

Outside of a dog, a book is man’s best friend. Inside a dog, it’s too dark to read. – Groucho Marx

Seriously, let’s loosen the corsets, let your hair down, and relax.  Working with you dog isn’t that complicated; it just involves logic. Let’s start with HOW you communicate with your dog.


I’m going to throw you a curveball here:  dogs don’t use noise to communicate.  I know what you’re going to say: your dog makes a lot of noise, right?  Well, let’s look at the times your dog makes noise:

  • When there’s someone at the door, they bark, which causes you to move towards them to investigate.
  • If you accidentally step on a dog, they squeal, and you instantly jump off of them.
  • When a dog growls at you, they’re trying to back you off.
  • When a dog wants you to start playing, they do that adorable butt-wriggle while doing short yippy barks.
  • When dog is alone, they start howling and crying to try to bring you back.

What do all these things have in common?  Movement.  Energy.  The more noise a dog makes, the more energy they are trying to evoke in you.  Noise = energy.  Think about the kind of music that’s played a nightclub vs. a funeral home.  The more noise, the more pumped up you are. Or talk to my mom on the phone for 5 minutes.

Yeah Mom..but- Mom I gotta g-... Mom, I need to hang u-....but, but....

Yeah Mom..but- Mom I gotta g-… Mom, I need to hang u-….but, but….

Noise equals energy.  We don’t want more energy in our dogs, we want mobile area rugs.  Dogs who are content to just lay in one place for hours because they’re not full of energy form all the yelling.  Dogs don’t communicate with noise, it’s only there to give energy.  Less noise (i.e., talking, yelling, shouting), the less energy you’re giving to your dog. Got it?

No joke!

No joke!

Dog’s don’t communicate using noise, they communicate using body language.  (Hint: so do we).  So let’s use our mutually agreed upon language: body language.

The good news is that dogs are binary creatures: they live in a world of hot or cold, true or false, yes or no.  There is no other option for them.  So every question they ever “ask” you will be a yes or no question, and every answer will be yes or no.  And no does not mean they are bad…”no” is simply the opposite of yes.  Try playing “Hot or Cold” by only using “hot” or “cold”.  No is simply a viable answer.  For example, if I asked you if I could pull off a mullet, your answer might (and should be):


Perfectly reasonable answer.  Or if I asked if you knew Vader was your father:

Yeah, I didn't see that coming either.

Yeah, I didn’t see that coming either.

So “no” is kept unemotional.  There should never be anger (looking at you, Skywalker), frustration, or punishment associated with “no”.  It’s merely an answer.

“Can I have that food on the floor?”

“Is that other dog a threat?”

“Can I chew on this cord?”‘

Obviously, the answer to all of these questions is “no”.  Give your dog the answer they need, rather than the answer you think they want, and you’ve unlocked the key to Piloting a dog. And good news:  the more often you Pilot a dog (answer their questions), the more they start to actively look for you to answer their questions.  Then you have a virtuous cycle started!

Check back on Monday for our post on how to tell your dog “no” in a humane, respectful way. Hint: if you’re using punishment, you’re doing it wrong.  Until then,

Keep calm and pilot on

Kerry Stack
Darwin Dogs
Dog Training In Cleveland, Ohio

Dogs of Fame

Last, I would like to thank the dogs, not just the Vick pack, but all of them, simply for being dogs, which is to say, tolerant and perseverant; willing to connect with a world that does not always return their affection; and proving, time and again, that life, while messy, difficult and imperfect, has the capacity to exceed our expectations and feed our undying hope – Jim Gorant, author of The Lost Dogs: Michael Vick’s Dogs and Their Tale of Rescue and Redemption

From our Pittie Parade last March! - Brittany Graham Photography

From our Pittie Parade last March!
- Brittany Graham Photography

They’re some of the most famous dogs. If anyone mentions “The Michael Vick Dogs”, you know who they’re talking about. Yes, they had a terrible past. The things they went through were disgusting, horrid, and exemplify the worst in humans. However, when they were rescued, they had a whole new set of challenges.

Any pit bull out there is an ambassador for their breed. However, these dogs were in the spotlight. Of course, they didn’t feel the pressure, they didn’t know. They were just dogs. They had gone through traumatic and terrifying experiences and now they had to learn to trust humans again. Everyone working with them, the rescuers, the volunteers, the donaters, the pit bull community, felt the pressure. And all we could do was sit, wait, give them time and love, and hope they would get a chance to just be dogs again.


If you are looking for something to read, The Lost Dogs by Jim Gorant is one of the most powerful, difficult, and well written books out there. It starts at the beginning  of their lives, some passages are painful to read, you’ll cry. There’s no way around that. But then there’s the rescuing, the success, and the love these dogs give and receive.

To see these dogs have a second chance at life is amazing. This article followed up on these amazing dogs and gives a glimpse into their beautiful lives and beautiful hearts. Take a minute and smile at these success stories.

Some more Pittie lovers from our Parade -Brittany Graham Photography

Some more Pittie lovers from our Parade
-Brittany Graham Photography

Whether you’re a pit bull fan or not, it shouldn’t matter. These dogs were able to overcome great odds. They were able to show the world what a dog’s heart is made of. Only gold and love. It’s a testament to anyone in the rescue world,including volunteers, fosters and adopters.

And if you are a pit bull fan…. well, it’s just one more instance where they’ve shown the world what they’re made of. Exactly what every other dog is made of, gold and love. Nothing less.

Keep calm and pilot on

Danika Migliore
Darwin Dogs, LLC
Dog Training in Cleveland, OH